Comments for Parenting Life http://parenting-life.com Informational articles, tips and tricks about parenting Fri, 18 May 2012 15:18:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on How many believe parenting/raising children is a cut and dry process? by ♥ SILLY ♥ http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/how-many-believe-parentingraising-children-is-a-cut-and-dry-process#comment-16 ♥ SILLY ♥ Fri, 18 May 2012 15:18:01 +0000 http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/how-many-believe-parentingraising-children-is-a-cut-and-dry-process#comment-16 I don't think there's a situation on the planet that is "cut and dry". I think every situation is different and different things work for different parents and different kids. Even within one family...what works for one kid may backfire for another...so it's best to stay open minded. However, I know what MY parenting philosophy is...and IT IS RIGHT...for MY family. It may not work for others...and I don't care...lol. MY family is my concern... As far as being tolerant of others...I'm getting there. I find it frustrating when people's beliefs are rooted in ignorance and refusal to explore all options rather than actual knowledge... Or if their "philosophy" is a side affect of laziness. But again...just because I find them frustrating...doesn't mean that it's any of my business or my place to care one way or the other. I used to be a lot more sensitive about things like nursing and lax parenting and unsupervised children....but the busier I get with my own son and being 9 months pregnant...the most I can muster is a head shake and mild disbelief. But I can't say that I actually "care" anymore. I don’t think there’s a situation on the planet that is "cut and dry".

I think every situation is different and different things work for different parents and different kids.

Even within one family…what works for one kid may backfire for another…so it’s best to stay open minded.

However, I know what MY parenting philosophy is…and IT IS RIGHT…for MY family.
It may not work for others…and I don’t care…lol. MY family is my concern…

As far as being tolerant of others…I’m getting there.

I find it frustrating when people’s beliefs are rooted in ignorance and refusal to explore all options rather than actual knowledge…

Or if their "philosophy" is a side affect of laziness.

But again…just because I find them frustrating…doesn’t mean that it’s any of my business or my place to care one way or the other.

I used to be a lot more sensitive about things like nursing and lax parenting and unsupervised children….but the busier I get with my own son and being 9 months pregnant…the most I can muster is a head shake and mild disbelief. But I can’t say that I actually "care" anymore.

]]> Comment on How much do you think parenting and environment affects the outcome of a person? by Jeanne http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/how-much-do-you-think-parenting-and-environment-affects-the-outcome-of-a-person#comment-15 Jeanne Fri, 18 May 2012 05:22:35 +0000 http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/how-much-do-you-think-parenting-and-environment-affects-the-outcome-of-a-person#comment-15 After raising 5 kids...I am going w/nature. My girls did not follow my example. I did my laundry (for the family) and had dinner on the table at 6. Neither girl keeps the laundry done for her family, nor do they cook for their family, both have been married and divorced several times....I was married once. So how can anyone say they follow what they have seen? I think it is just the way they are. And I don't believe I could have done one thing to change them. In fact I know I couldn't, because I did try to teach them. It just didn't work. You can't teach promiscuity. Either they are or they aren't. I wasn't....they were. They are nothing like me. I love crafts, can sew (always could), they can do nothing. Can't even thread a needle. I crochet...they don't have a clue. I taught myself. I couldn't teach them. They were born that way. After raising 5 kids…I am going w/nature. My girls did not follow my example. I did my laundry (for the family) and had dinner on the table at 6. Neither girl keeps the laundry done for her family, nor do they cook for their family, both have been married and divorced several times….I was married once. So how can anyone say they follow what they have seen? I think it is just the way they are. And I don’t believe I could have done one thing to change them. In fact I know I couldn’t, because I did try to teach them. It just didn’t work.
You can’t teach promiscuity. Either they are or they aren’t. I wasn’t….they were.
They are nothing like me. I love crafts, can sew (always could), they can do nothing. Can’t even thread a needle. I crochet…they don’t have a clue. I taught myself. I couldn’t teach them.
They were born that way.

]]> Comment on Do you think the majority of parents take parenting seriously? by hk2kds http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/do-you-think-the-majority-of-parents-take-parenting-seriously#comment-14 hk2kds Thu, 17 May 2012 19:26:42 +0000 http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/do-you-think-the-majority-of-parents-take-parenting-seriously#comment-14 I think its hard not to take parenting seriously. Most people love their children and try to do what is best for them. The problem is that there is no best. What works for one child or family may not work for another. Also, parents are limited by their experience, knowledge, and faults. If parents try to take parenting too seriously, they start to deny their children some of the joys of childhood, love, adventure, etc. I think most parents struggle with trying to make sure their children have a good time in life while trying to make sure they learn the rules as well. It's easy to fall to far one way or the other. As far as experts, I take a little from here and little from there. If I am having a problem, I will search the child care books until I find a suggestion that seems to gel with my parenting style. I'll will combine ideas to suit me. Often, the best resources are family and friends. In many ways, I trust them more because I have seen the results of their parenting. With some issues, like food, I've decided to follow my doctor's advice. As with everything else, there is lots of conflicting opinions about there about how to feed your kids. I figure if I am going to have him monitor my kids' well-being, I might as well follow his advice. I think its hard not to take parenting seriously. Most people love their children and try to do what is best for them. The problem is that there is no best. What works for one child or family may not work for another. Also, parents are limited by their experience, knowledge, and faults. If parents try to take parenting too seriously, they start to deny their children some of the joys of childhood, love, adventure, etc. I think most parents struggle with trying to make sure their children have a good time in life while trying to make sure they learn the rules as well. It’s easy to fall to far one way or the other.

As far as experts, I take a little from here and little from there. If I am having a problem, I will search the child care books until I find a suggestion that seems to gel with my parenting style. I’ll will combine ideas to suit me. Often, the best resources are family and friends. In many ways, I trust them more because I have seen the results of their parenting. With some issues, like food, I’ve decided to follow my doctor’s advice. As with everything else, there is lots of conflicting opinions about there about how to feed your kids. I figure if I am going to have him monitor my kids’ well-being, I might as well follow his advice.

]]> Comment on How do you make parenting decisions with your significant other? by semj http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/how-do-you-make-parenting-decisions-with-your-significant-other#comment-13 semj Thu, 17 May 2012 10:27:17 +0000 http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/how-do-you-make-parenting-decisions-with-your-significant-other#comment-13 my sons dad and i are seperated, but still communicate regularly for the benefit of our son, and when we've had to make specific decisions, we've talked about it and listened to each others opinions, decided which we both thought would work, tried it and if it didn't work, try the next thing. I think its best to both contribute, and different ideas can work together with compromise. my sons dad and i are seperated, but still communicate regularly for the benefit of our son, and when we’ve had to make specific decisions, we’ve talked about it and listened to each others opinions, decided which we both thought would work, tried it and if it didn’t work, try the next thing.
I think its best to both contribute, and different ideas can work together with compromise.

]]> Comment on Why are people required to take parenting classes before they become a foster parent, but not a blood parent? by reallypablo http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/why-are-people-required-to-take-parenting-classes-before-they-become-a-foster-parent-but-not-a-blood-parent#comment-12 reallypablo Thu, 17 May 2012 01:27:38 +0000 http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/why-are-people-required-to-take-parenting-classes-before-they-become-a-foster-parent-but-not-a-blood-parent#comment-12 There is a fundamental right to have children (assuming you are biologically able to do so), just as there is a fundamental right to marry. There is no fundamental right to adopt, so reasonable standards and procedures may be implemented by the state. There is a fundamental right to have children (assuming you are biologically able to do so), just as there is a fundamental right to marry. There is no fundamental right to adopt, so reasonable standards and procedures may be implemented by the state.

]]> Comment on Parents: How is your current parenting style different from the way you imagined it would be? by DJ and Andrew's mama http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/parents-how-is-your-current-parenting-style-different-from-the-way-you-imagined-it-would-be#comment-11 DJ and Andrew's mama Wed, 16 May 2012 16:28:58 +0000 http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/parents-how-is-your-current-parenting-style-different-from-the-way-you-imagined-it-would-be#comment-11 my boys are 2 and 1, they're still pretty young, and so far I haven't run into many issues that I thought would be different. My kids are very different from eachother, and I didn't really expect that so young they would be so different. Before I had kids I guess I just figured that all babies were all more or less the same and they developed their personalities later, but even as babies my kids were so different and they respond to different things differently. I'm sure this will present itself even more as they get older, but so far we haven't run into too many issues. my boys are 2 and 1, they’re still pretty young, and so far I haven’t run into many issues that I thought would be different. My kids are very different from eachother, and I didn’t really expect that so young they would be so different. Before I had kids I guess I just figured that all babies were all more or less the same and they developed their personalities later, but even as babies my kids were so different and they respond to different things differently. I’m sure this will present itself even more as they get older, but so far we haven’t run into too many issues.

]]> Comment on parenting? by Madeleine http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/parenting-2#comment-10 Madeleine Wed, 16 May 2012 08:22:03 +0000 http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/parenting-2#comment-10 It's abduction, not kidnapping, when the non-custodial parent takes away the child. If it's the custodial parent it's fine. It’s abduction, not kidnapping, when the non-custodial parent takes away the child. If it’s the custodial parent it’s fine.

]]> Comment on Parenting???? by . http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/parenting#comment-9 . Wed, 16 May 2012 00:14:33 +0000 http://parenting-life.com/questions-answered/parenting#comment-9 Yes I see this quite often. Punishments are bad bad bad, demeaning and will hurt your child's feelings/psychological well being. All I have to say to that is horse crap. I'm not about to not give consequences/punishments to my children when they have merited them because it will "hurt their feelings". When my child does something wrong or misbehaves, we call him out on it, we tell him why it is wrong and what the right choice would have been and then we tell him he receives a particular consequence because he chose to disobey. It's called disciplining him and correcting him and it's for his best interest. I will never not give my child a punishment when it's merited. My child will have discipline, respect, manners and consequences for his actions instilled in him. To NOT do that will hurt him in the long run. Real life has consequences for every action good or bad. We as parents start teaching that in the home from day one to prepare them to make the good decisions in the real world and avoid making bad decisions. Yes I see this quite often. Punishments are bad bad bad, demeaning and will hurt your child’s feelings/psychological well being. All I have to say to that is horse crap.

I’m not about to not give consequences/punishments to my children when they have merited them because it will "hurt their feelings". When my child does something wrong or misbehaves, we call him out on it, we tell him why it is wrong and what the right choice would have been and then we tell him he receives a particular consequence because he chose to disobey. It’s called disciplining him and correcting him and it’s for his best interest.

I will never not give my child a punishment when it’s merited. My child will have discipline, respect, manners and consequences for his actions instilled in him.

To NOT do that will hurt him in the long run. Real life has consequences for every action good or bad. We as parents start teaching that in the home from day one to prepare them to make the good decisions in the real world and avoid making bad decisions.

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